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5 Tips To Creating A Good First Impression

It takes just a quick glance for someone to evaluate you when you both meet for the first time. In this short time, the other person forms an opinion about you based on your appearance, your body language and your mannerisms.

With every new encounter, You Are evaluated and another person’s impression of you is formed. These first impressions can be nearly impossible to reverse or undo, making those first encounters extremely important, as they set the tone for all the relationships that follow.

So, be it in your career or social life, it’s important to know how to create a good first impression, especially for singles who are new to the dating scene.

Tip #1 – Dress Well

Of course physical appearance matters. The person you are meeting for the first time does Not Know you and your appearance is usually the first clue he or she has to go by. And men are, well let’s face it, visual creatures. This does not mean you need to look like a model to create a strong and positive first impression. The key to creating a good first impression is to present yourself appropriately. For women, this includes wearing light make-up. Yes, it’s perfectly okay to enhance your beauty.

You may think this is a no-brainer, but trust us, we have seen single men make a boo-boo time and again on this very simple rule. So if you want to create a good first impression, please leave that haversack at home instead of lugging it along on your date. You do not need a security blanket, do you? And make early preparations for the date. The last thing you want is to arrive late for the date drenched in your own perspiration because you couldn’t find the location.

Tip #2 – Always be courteous and complimentary

‘Please’ and ‘thank you’ go a long way. Please demonstrate basic social skills such as holding the door for the person behind you (And yes, that is regardless whether it’s a male or female that’s behind you), and thanking a lady for her company. Some of you may go, “Yeah! Of course that goes without saying” but many a time, we ladies have experienced the door slamming shut on our face, no thanks to some socially inept individuals. No matter how much of a rush you are in, do understand that these are basic social graces. The last thing you need is to slam the door on a lady who turns out to be your date. No prizes for guessing How You‘d fare in her books.

For the more advanced, you may even volunteer getting the drink for the other party, if she doesn’t mind.

Tip #3 – Smile

A friendly, relaxed facial expression will put both you and the other person at ease and makes conversation easier for both of you. So smiling is a winner when it comes to creating a good first impression. But don’t go overboard with this – people who take this too far can seem insincere and smarmy. Just practice smiling in front of the mirror. Do you like what you see?

From our observations of guys on dates, there is a tendency for them to display rather overtly their disappointment if the date does not meet their expectations. On the other end of the spectrum, these very same guys would practically drool if their date turns out to be attractive. Do bear in mind that as you critique your date’s appearance, you too are being assessed by your date. So please be polite and smile even if your date isn’t who you had envisioned her to be. Give her and give yourself a chance. After all, the purpose of dating is to meet your lifetime partner and it takes more than just good looks to sustain a marriage.

As for our observation of ladies on dates, a handful of ladies tend not to smile. The same advice goes to you. Do practice smiling and talking in front of the mirror. You will notice that you look more approachable and attractive.

Tip #4 – Maintain good eye contact

This does not mean staring deep into the other person’s eyes (Unless you are staring into your girlfriend’s eyes, then please, by all means go ahead). But staring can be unnerving for the other party if she does not know you that well. The last thing you need is to come across as a leering creep!

Not many people know this, but the key to maintaining good eye contact is to look just above the other person’s eyes, at the eyelids. This is also helpful for those of you who may be shy, so just remember to focus on the other person’s eyelids.

Tip #5 – Make sure you are listening as well as speaking

Listening shows interest and the ability to compromise. We’ve met a couple of conversation hoggers who rattle on and on oblivious to the fact that the date is bored by the conversation. So don’t hog the conversation, but don’t keep mum either; if not you’d just come across as being disinterested. Being shy is not an excuse to keep quiet. If you don’t speak, you’re not giving the other party a chance to get to know you better.

You’d be surprise how by the number of singles we have met who sign up for singles events and not bother to speak to their date. Just relax and be yourself. Talk about Things That you are familiar and comfortable with, but do watch out for social cues whether your topic of discussion is putting your date to sleep.

Remember, a conversation is a 2-way street, an ebb and flow.

We hope you have found these 5 tips to creating a good first impression useful.

About the Author

Peng Suan is the co-founder of a dating events agency, Blooming Encounters which also provides dating tips and advice for singles. Visit http://www.expertinfoguide.com/bloomingencounters for more dating advice.

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